I got two lovely compliments today — one from my dh, one from my mil — and I thought I’d post them here so I don’t forget them:

Larry (my dh) complimented me earlier on my efforts to be more patient (while still being very firm) w/the kids — it’s actually made a WORLD of difference in our home, b/c it finally dawned on me that, whether I like it or not, I really DO set the tone in our home (the old saying “if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t NOBODY happy!” definitely has its basis in reality!), and now I’m actively taking responsibility for that… not only do our children quarrel less, but they’re minding better, and even Lar is raising his voice to them less frequently (he’s usually pretty low-key and laid-back, but I’d noticed that lately he seemed to have a pretty short fuse, which is rather out of character for him — that was actually the red flag that indicated to me that MY attitude and behaviour has a lot more influence in my home than I think I’d like to admit)… it’s a pretty dramatic change, in both my behaviour and in the tone of our home, and my dh would have to be deaf, blind, and stupid not to have noticed, but I appreciate him actually making a point of telling me that he noticed and likes the changes…

my mil told me she’s glad that I make the effort to prepare healthy, well-balanced meals that are also kid-friendly (when we have the boys w/us, at least; but if it’s just me, Lar, and Viv, I like to fix things that are a little more sophisticated — on those nights, Viv gets mainly the bits I know she’ll eat, plus just little tastes of the other)… the kids don’t always like what I fix (to their credit, they ARE pretty good about trying new things — sometimes they like them, sometimes they don’t), and even when they DO like it, they don’t always eat well, but that’s usually a function of them wanting to go play instead of stopping long enough to give their little bodies some much-needed fuel for all that energy they keep expending… I think Mom’s still having a hard time w/the fact that Larry remarried so soon after his divorce (hey, it’s not MY fault his ex was stupid enough to leave a GEM of a man!!), and I appreciate her finding something nice to say both about me and to me…

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