it’s definitely not “cash money, cars, clothes,” but for better or worse it’s pretty much how *I* roll… my dh gave me braces for Christmas, and Invisaligns at that (I’ve wanted to get my teeth straightened for YEARS and just never had the means to do it), but before I can start w/orthodontic treatment, I’ve got to have some periodontal work done — my mouth isn’t in bad shape, esp considering how long I’ve gone w/o professional dental care, but it’s been way too long since I’ve been to a dentist, and now we’ve got no choice but to play catch-up (to the tune of about $1k) before we can go forward… I have to keep telling myself that I deserve to have healthy teeth and bones, that it’s not only okay but NECESSARY for me to spend money on dental care, that my abject fear of needles and relatively low tolerance for someone rooting around in my mouth w/metal instruments (it’s not so much pain as it is just plain long ol’ fear) isn’t something I have to just “suck up” and “get over,” and that it’s okay for me to spend extra money on treatments (in this case, IV sedation) that make me more comfortable… I mean geez, the dentist himself said, “we don’t want to terrorize you or it’ll be another 15 years before you see a dentist again!” :-\ I don’t know if I inherited the whole “I can’t spend any money!” (or more specifically, “I can’t spend any money on ME!”) freakout thing from my mother, or if it’s just some primal maternal instinct that kicked in when I became a mom myself, but it’s something I’ve got to learn to moderate so I don’t end up acting like some kind of martyr — it’s not as if this is some weird control thing my dh has imposed on me; farthest thing from it, in fact… I need to identify some more baby steps that I can take that will help me gradually get over my compulsion to be frugal (not that I want to go off the deep end in the other direction, I just don’t want to feel guilty every time I spend a little money on myself)…

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